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There is always a problem at this location trying to cross the street. As I was leaving work at night a car of 3 people barely stopped as I was walking across the street. On top of almost running me over, they began to yell, “I’m gonna beat the shit out of you! Bitch I will spit in your mouth!” It was very dark out and I was extremely caught off guard and scared!
A few years ago, I was waiting at a bus stop with my infant son and I asked a guy if a certain bus would take me somewhere. He responded and yelled out, “I hate Niggers. Niggers. Niggers. Niggers…” I just walked away quickly with my child. I did not know that racism still existed until then.
Winter time harassment – it’s so weird! Check out what I was wearing when a dude offered up a “Hey, beautiful” as he kept walking by with his buddy. Really? Isn’t this proof that ‘only “slutty women” get harassed’ is a total myth? I am basically shapeless and genderless and covered head to toe! If it was warmer, I might have offered up a “Hey, women don’t actually like it when you comment on their bodies, no matter what you say. You seem like a nice guy, maybe comment on something else or keep your comments to yourself”. That’s what I wanted to say. He actually did seem nice and not creepy, but it’s just not appropriate to say something in a familiar way to a total stranger, especially one that looks like this (stink eye and all):
Walking holding hands with my date when a man came up and yelled “What is it about a woman – you know I can satisfy you just the same, if better. You just haven’t experienced a real man, but once you do, you’ll change your mind.”
We kept walking, ignoring him as he yelled, “fucking dykes.”
A honk from one car is obnoxious, but honks from two different cars on a relatively empty street plus a guy in a car at a different traffic light asking if I wanted a ride is just over-kill and embarrassing.
Honking as a form of validation that someone is attractive is never appropriate. Other drivers might perceive it as notice that they might be doing something wrong, and it can be startling. Unfortunately, I think I’ve had this happen often enough that I didn’t jump out of my skin and was more annoyed than anything else.
Just exactly how attractive the soft glow of street lights makes me look is irrelevant. I know that I’m attractive in yoga pants, but that doesn’t mean you have to express your feelings as a stranger. I don’t wear them to draw attention to myself or my ass; they’re comfortable and I *DO* take yoga classes! I have poor body image, so I don’t even expect or want to be noticed for my physical appearance most of the time, unless it’s by someone that I know.
As I turned on to S Clinton Street from Boston Street tonight a car waved me on at an intersection. I thought nothing of it since we both got to the stop sign around the same time. I went through. For the next 8 or so blocks the car was behind me, and again, I did not think anything of this. After I made it to my home there was no parking out front, so I turn on a side street to cut through an alley and double back to check for parking, the car turns. At this point I don’t recognize the car as a neighbors car, but am not too concerned. I keep driving around for a few blocks looking for a parking spot and sure enough I’m still being followed. At this point I was getting suspicious, so I went further out a few more blocks and through a few lights without using my signals to see what would happen and I was still being followed. Unsure of what to do next, I pulled off by another car at a corner, hoping he would keep going but he pulled in behind my car and got out and came up to my window. (Luckily I had the forethought to angle my car to be able to pull out quickly off needed and kept it in drive.). I asked through the window what he wanted and then he made a lewd sexual comment to me and I yelled “no” and to “get away from my car” to him and he went back to his car and left. I waited a few minutes before leaving to make sure he pulled off and left my block before moving. I drove around for a few minutes to make sure he was gone before parking and going into my house.
He was an older man in his late 40′s to late 50′s with glasses in a dark Neon-like car.
Three kids in their late teens were waiting for a bus, but they were waiting like 20 feet away from the bench and mostly standing on the dark side of the building, a little tucked away. People would walk past them and get startled, not expecting them to be there, and then they would yell at the passerby. Sitting in my car about to pull out, I saw them call a guy “fag,” who had perhaps the best response to street harassment ever: he kept walking and just grabbed both butt cheeks like he didn’t give an eff. I kinda loved it. Then a young woman in athletic wear started coming their way. I braced myself. She did her best to walk briskly, look stoic, and had her head down so as not to make eye contact. It didn’t matter. All three kids started yelling after her, eventually saying “What, you don’t want to talk to me?” and “That’s ok, that’s ok, I like this view” as she walked away. I felt awful for her. To drown them out and distract them, I just held my car horn down, hoping to give the woman a little relief. Eventually, the guys got on their bus.
I went out to get some things from the CVS and on the way back a man stopped to tell me, “mmm so beautiful damn” — I didn’t ask your opinion, thank you very much. I had my camera phone on-the-ready though, because I had been harassed already once before today. So I hollabacked.
Here’s his picture.