Assault, Blocking Path, Groping, Homophobic, Leering, Lewd Behavior, Positive Thinking, Public Masturbation, Racist, Stalking, Transphobic, Uncategorized, Verbal

Take Our Street Harassment Survey!

Be Part of an Internationally Coordinated Survey on Street Harassment

In collaboration with our partners at Cornell University, Hollaback! now has a comprehensive, international survey about street harassment! This survey will allow for unprecedented data collection and analysis on street harassment, including data specific to us here in Baltimore!

We need YOU to take the survey in order to meet our 200 response goal. We can do this!

Take the survey in English.
Take the survey in Spanish.

Then please share the links with your social networks, friends, and family. Wanna disseminate it in person? Just email us at bmore@ihollaback.org and we’ll get you printed copies.

no comments
Positive Thinking, Uncategorized

Reflections on Facing Race Conference from Baltimore Site Leader Mel

“Try to make it safe for people to be wrong [when talking about racism]. Part of that is including myself in the wrong-ness.” – Sally Kohn


Facing Race 2014, a national conference about racial justice, was held in Dallas, TX this year and I had the privilege of attending as a representative of Hollaback.  It was the largest Facing Race ever with 1,600 attendees and its accompanying hashtag #FacingRace2014 trended nationally as people documented conference highlights on social media.  It’s been a few days since the last plenary session and I’m still trying to soak it all in.  What weighs heavy on my mind as I make sense of everything is the consistent messaging for us, racial justice activists, mel with key and peeleto be kind.


From the first event, the biggest names in the racial justice world dropped bombs of knowledge followed by encouragement for us all to call people in and not call people out, as Jaime-Jin Lewis of the organization Border Crossers said.  Lewis told us to look towards a future movement that is based on healing.  Rinku Sen, President of Race Forward, then told us to, “lower our litmus tests for friends and allies, and trust that people become anti-racist by doing racial justice work”.  These notions aren’t new nor are they bad, but I was surprised at this consistent messaging and the honesty of the speakers.


As a woman of color, I value being in majority people of color spaces because they’re so rare.  I feel safe to vent about racism without a filter and there’s solidarity in our struggles.  This conference was speaking to a majority audience of color and the repetitive suggestions for us to “lower our litmus test” were blunt requests to do better that I hadn’t heard in that setting before.  The esteemed speakers and presenters weren’t asking us to shut up or stop getting angry, which is what sometimes can happen when asked to be kind; they were calling for us to have empathy and compassion.


Six community organizers from the Ferguson, MO protests spoke about their work on day 2 of the conference bright and early at 8:00am.  They were asked what the best thing is that we, as racial justice activists, can do to support them.  The resounding answer was to go home to our communities and talk to people about racism; create a dialogue about what life is like for people of color.  Having those difficult conversations is needed work and a first step in making sure people remember the names of young men like Mike Brown because every community has a Mike Brown.
anti-imperial ballroom


I found myself thinking about all of this and feeling, for the first time, like venting or a safe space is not the priority.  This people of color-focused space that I hold so sacred was not meant for emotional release this weekend.  Hip Hop Legend and activist Jay Smooth described it best as balancing self-care and the needed catharsis of telling someone off who’s being racist while not always resorting to those reactions as a default.  I’ve been contemplating since then: what is my default — righteous anger?  Is that all it is or do I couple it with some compassion?


Just when I thought there was nothing else anyone could possibly say that I hadn’t already heard, the final plenary blew me away.  Ian Haney Lopez, Van Jones and Rinku Sen together were a trifecta of nuance on the next 50 years of the racial justice movement.  Ian Haney Lopez pushed us to fight the concept of non-Whiteness within communities of color and complicated the popular belief that White folks will be in the minority in 2042.  This prediction depends on whether or not the definition of Whiteness expands and with many White Latinos self-identifying as White, the percentage of White
facing race bus tourfolks in the USA could actually increase in 50 years.  Van Jones came on stage and told us all to expand our hustle by leveraging technology to make our own money, not depending on the mostly White male technocracy of Silicon Valley to dictate the gadgets and apps we use.  And finally, Rinku Sen brought it all home as she actually told us not to place people on our “shit list” (yes, her word choice! so perfect) for making mistakes and reiterated the need to have difficult conversations about race.  She did not hold back in telling the movement that we need to be more compassionate than we are right now.  My favorite moment was when she voiced her dislike of critiquing one another on Twitter and urged us to hold each other accountable for mistakes both in person and in private.


Facing race is difficult not just because the oppression we’re confronting is at a larger structural level, but it hits people of color at the personal level, too.  Resulting trauma makes it difficult to see through the righteous anger we have; but this year’s conference was a wake-up call for our compassion.  The wisdom from this year’s conference is settling in with me now and I’m taking a closer look at how I define a friend and racial justice ally.  Social media has made us all especially easy subjects of scrutiny and it’s also easier to scrutinize one another than ever before.  It’s time to create a better balance of self-care and reexamine what our defaults are so we can be in a place to discuss racism with many others, and ultimately grow the movement to end it.


no comments
Leering, Verbal

“…it was dark and we were alone” – Holly’s story

It was late at night in the city and I was waiting outside of a restaurant with my friend for her mother to pay for our food. We’re both standing there minding our own business and all of the sudden a group of creepy older guys walk by saying “Hey baby”. It was frightening because it was dark and we were alone. These guys looked about in their mid 20s. My friend and I are both 15.

I've got your back!
1+

no comments
Verbal

Sexual Harassment: It’s not always obvious – Nem’s story

While I was working in a government agency as a contractor, there was an older man who would constantly fawn and joke with another female coworker of mine.  Nothing over the line but it made for an uncomfortable situation.  The man was the office manager and was also manipulative and would throw out polite insults to most people within the office, including me. My contract coworker and I did not get along but the she and the man were on friendlier terms so he would go out of his way to belittle or subtly harass me.  One day, he walked over to our work area, and began talking about women wearing tight pants and how they should not wear them.  He then sat on my desk while conversing with my coworker on tight pants and telling stories of all the women he’d seen wearing them.  Of course, that day I was wearing skinny jeans with an oversized sweater.  Another time and the worst of his offenses, he came over to our work area and stated, ” I want to see you (my coworker), Nemesis, and X (another female working in the office) in a three way.”

I've got your back!
3+

no comments
Groping

“I was ashamed…then I was angry” – am’s story

A man smacked me on the butt as he passed me when we were crossing the street in opposite directions. He laughed. I hid in [a convenience store] as he and his friend sat outside the [convenience store] on the steps of the Peabody. I waited until they left before I left the [convenience store]. I was ashamed that I was so afraid and then I was really, really angry. I carry pepper spray now.

I've got your back!
4+

no comments
Leering, Positive Thinking, Racist, Stalking, Verbal

On Being a Woman of Color Leader in Hollaback & the Viral Video: A Note from Co-Director Mel Keller

I want to personally respond to this whole viral street harassment video incident not just as a leader in the global Hollaback! and anti-street harassment movement or as an activist in our city, but specifically as a woman of color.  If you haven’t watched the video in question, you can do so here.
A few things to address first:

We at Hollaback! Baltimore acknowledge that the viral video plays on racist stereotypes of men of color as sexual predators and we do not support that depiction at all.  We are grateful, however, that it sparked a conversation of unprecedented magnitude about street harassment and also, intersections of racism and sexism.  Our friends over at Hollaback! Boston wrote a statement which aligns with our thoughts here, too.

 

The conversation that has developed about racism and sexism has been especially intense for me for a few important reasons: I am a woman of color; I am an activist and I am part of Hollaback!  I racially identify as mixed and know that I’m perceived as ambiguous.  I move through the world with constant questions from complete strangers about my family’s genealogical make-up and am met with shock and disbelief if I do take the time to indulge in answering them.  Being biracial has not only affected the way I experience street harassment, but it has complicated my sense of identity.  I, like many other mixed folks, struggle with not feeling White enough or “of color” enough to confidently claim or feel accepted by any ethnic community.  My mother is Korean and my father is White; and I have never once experienced street harassment specifically targeting the fact that I’m East Asian.

 

My physical racial ambiguity has resulted in an onslaught of slurs and awful harassment meant to target women from other communities of color.  Thus, I share similar experiences of racism with many Black and Brown women because the microaggressions and discrimination I receive does not rely on how I identify myself, it relies on whatever someone else thinks I am, my ascribed racial identity, and that has run the gamut of identities of color.  It’s made me interrogate my connection to my Korean heritage and my White-ness, and has had me questioning how “Korean” or “White” or anything I really believe myself to be.

 

I’ve read and received loads of criticisms of Hollaback! as a result of the viral video.  I’m going to be honest: many address the organization in a way that assumes it’s run by White women.  Any assumptions that either the Baltimore chapter or Hollaback! as a whole is run by White women are false.  These assumptions White-wash my identity and those of my fellow badass women of color who are part of chapters around the globe.  They invisibilize my role in Baltimore and the anti-street harassment movement as a whole.

 

I can’t help but marinate on why this particular video went viral.  The answer lies in the perspective that is offered — more people can empathize with a White women being harassed than a woman of color.  Who even controls how many views a video gets?  If I could, I would make damn sure the organization Girls for Gender Equity NYC’s youth-produced documentary focus[ing] on women of colors’ experiences with street harassment and men of colors’ ideas about and intentions behind the behavior” made in 2009 would go viral — but it didn’t and still hasn’t.  Racism is woven into the fabric of our society and institutions and the media is no exception to that fact.

 

Do we so quickly forget that women of color have been organizing and fighting to end street harassment for as long as it’s been happening?  Feminista Jones created the #YouOKSis hashtag campaign in July of this year to specifically discuss Black women’s experiences and called on Black men to be good bystanders.  Hollaback! Advisory Board Member Jamia Wilson wrote this article about street harassment as a Black woman living in the Middle East.  Mikki Kendall also organized the hashtag campaign #NotJustHello to address the myth that street harassment is just a greeting, and in doing so amplified voices of women of color.

 

Women of color leaders in Hollaback! have done really great work, as well.  Someone who has made a great positive impact on my racial analysis and development as an activist is Debjani Roy, Deputy Director of Hollaback! NYC.  She wrote this article about the murder of Mary “Unique” Spears by her street harasser discussing the real threat of violence, specifically for women of color.  She also spearheaded the creation of the #HarassmentIs publication exploring identity and its relation to street harassment.  Rebecca Faria, Director of Hollaback! Halifax is a Twitter superstar (you can follow her @HollabackHRM) and a local activist powerhouse in her own right.  She is the recipient of the Bronze Award for Best Activist in Halifax and inspires me to be more creative with the righteous spoken word poetry she writes and performs.  Check out her poem “Umbrellas”, which is all about street harassment.  Alicia Wallace, Director of Hollaback! Bahamas, is another wonderful leader in our movement who is currently working on “HERassment Stories: An Experiential Documentary” about the reality of street harassment in The Bahamas.  She continues to support, engage with and challenge me to be a better activist against gender-based violence and racial justice.

 

The White feminist voices who are so quick and loud to call out racism in this video never once asked me or my fellow women or color leaders how we are doing in light of all this.  We were never asked what our thoughts are.  Did the world forget that we’re here?  I understand that White allies can’t grasp what it’s like to watch that video and see people who look like you portrayed in such a way.  Is it understandable that the emotional connection I have to that video may require some more time and self-care to work through before being articulate?  To me, the White-washing of our leadership and the complete lack of involvement of us, women of color — the demographic that everyone is trying to speak for and on behalf of —  is reflective of the exact institutional racism that is being critiqued in the video.

 

Here in Baltimore, we put serious effort into being inclusive of all experiences, especially those of the most marginalized communities.  I’m working to translate materials so we can offer all of our info and the Safer Spaces Campaign training session in both English and Spanish.  We’re members of the city’s Transgender Response Team and help plan the Transgender Day of Remembrance each year, which memorializes the lives of trans folks we’ve lost; and just this year, two trans women of color were killed in a span of 6 weeks in Baltimore: Kandy Hall and Mia Henderson.  We participate in trainings and events put on by Baltimore Racial Justice Action to engage in dialogue with community members about what racial justice in Baltimore looks like.  We’ve also worked with artist Tatyana Fazlalizadeh of Stop Telling Women To Smile to facilitate a Baltimore-specific portrait series, which concluded with local women of color activists, like our friend and former Stop Street Harassment correspondent Brittany Oliver and my portraits wheat-pasted all over the city.

 

I feel immersed in women of color activism against gender-based violence and to hear that Hollaback! doesn’t support or acknowledge the issues of women of color feels like a rejection of our own existence and voices within the organization.  It also brings up personal insecurities I have had about being mixed race.  The straddling of different worlds by not feeling White enough, but not feeling “of color” enough either, has totally been on my mind as my identity, life experience and perspective go unacknowledged.

 

If you don’t want to promote that viral video, then don’t.  Link instead to the video by Girls for Gender Equity that I posted earlier.  Read, share and participate in the #YouOKSis and #NotJustHello hashtags.  Reference the articles mentioned above written by women of color activists, like Debjani Roy, to widen the conversation about street harassment and help us be louder.  The mainstream media will be slow to integrate our voices, so it’s up to us to do exactly that whenever we have the opportunity.

 

The video’s popularity reminds me that White supremacy and White privilege are so real and so insidious.  The hush surrounding the experiences of women of color (that we’ve been shouting about for years) has me feeling like there is almost nothing we can do to compete with the inherent platform and humanity that White folks have and folks of color, especially women of color, just don’t.  I’m also harshly reminded that intersectionality is a concept everyone needs to work on — check out the harsh words some Black men had regarding the #YouOKSis hashtag campaign; it clearly prioritizes racism over sexism.  I can’t separate my Brown-ness from my woman-ness, so how does that analysis serve people like me?  Dr. Brittney Cooper, or Professor Crunk, of the Crunk Feminist Collective has the best response to this phenomenon:

“…I don’t think it’s an un-Black feminist move to say that I’m bothered by the street harassment of any woman, white women included. That is in part because I know that for brothers brazen enough to harass white women and their protected femininities on the street, my God what won’t they do to cis and trans women of color, whose womanhood is structurally devalued?

 …I been waiting on brothers to use this moment, this moment where sisters are now outnumbering them in the Ferguson street activism for instance, to build coalition with black women around the ways that we, too, are not allowed to occupy public space unharrassed. I have been waiting on the thinkpieces where brothers acknowledge that a lot of dudes who look like them were complicit in the criminalizing of Black men because they followed and catcalled this woman. I was waiting for the thinkpieces where those progressive enlightened brothers said some shit like, ‘Yeah, we won’t allow the obvious racism of this video to excuse the problematic sexism and misogyny that it highlights…”

Share your thoughts and ideas with me and the rest of the radical Hollaback! Baltimore team.  Moments like these show us that we ALL must be vigilant about the various privileges we have and remember our shared humanity and connections to others.  When we’re fighting against the criminalization of Black men and boys, we cannot forget or de-prioritize the violence that Black women endure.  When we fight for our right to feel safe in public spaces, we cannot forget the vast difference between what not feeling safe is to a trans woman of color versus a White woman.

“There is no such thing as a single-issue struggle, because we do not live single-issue lives” – Audre Lorde

This is a wake-up call for us to strengthen our ties with each other as we fight all forms of oppression.  The hilarious and powerful hashtag campaign created by a true Black male ally Elon James White called #DudesGreetingDudes is just one example of how this is possible.  Let’s build each other up and fight the patriarchy, racism, capitalism and all these oppressive forces together because we can’t succeed alone.

 

Now watch this video of one of my favorite spoken word artists Staceyann Chin telling us exactly how All Oppression Is Connected”.

8 comments
Verbal

Yelled Out the Car – Tanya’s story

Walking and men yelled out the car something about my ass – they were hanging out the window and yelling loudly

I've got your back!
5+

no comments
Assault, Blocking Path, Groping, Homophobic, Leering, Lewd Behavior, Public Masturbation, Racist, Stalking, Transphobic, Verbal

Surprising statistics for sexual harassment in the workplace

We here at Hollaback! Baltimore love having guest bloggers. It not only allows for a wide range of view points on street harassment, but it helps us show that street harassment is part of the spectrum of gender-based violence, and ties street harassment to other issues faced by women and LGBTQ folks. Here, Alice shares some insight on sexual harassment in the workplace. Thanks, Alice!  – Shawna, co-director, Hollaback! Baltimore

——

Sexual harassment in the workplace is a larger issue than some of us might think. While there are only a number of us that have to do with sexual harassment directly or indirectly, it happens in workplaces across multiple industries and with multiple levels of severity around the world. California based sexual harassment attorney Frank Nicholas recently collected research into the issue, and some concerning statistics were found.

When surveyed, men were found to be less aware of various forms of sexual harassment in the workplace over women. Some men show almost 0 levels of awareness in instances where there was ongoing sexual harassment in their workplace whereas women seem to have a greater level of awareness as well as a higher level of reporting.

In recent surveys 54% of people have recorded that they’ve experienced some sort of sexual harassment in the workplace. Now this statistic may seem very high especially if you are used to working in a very safe workplace, but it just goes to show how prevalent this workplace issue can be. 17% of these sexual harassment experiences have been caused by a superior person of power where is 27% of sexual harassment in the workplace occurs from colleagues. In extreme cases, 12% of sexual harassment cases continue when the harassed receive threats of termination by not replying to the requests or ongoing advances of sexual harassment.

21% of the sexual harassment cases in the workplace were reported by men but 79% of sexual harassment in the workplace involves women making them the most targeted gender.

When it comes to age groups, the most commonly sexual harassed employees are between the ages of 21 and 25 with a moderate prevalent between 26 and 30 and the under 20 group being targeted in the third greatest frequency.

Sexual harassment can take on many forms in the workplace including:

Inappropriate touching of the body

Uncomfortable staring at body parts

Uncomfortable comments on physical appearance

Invasion of comfortable space

Using unwelcome or offensive terms or continuously advancing on someone at work.

By knowing the facts and understanding the frequency of sexual harassment you can find the confidence to make changes in your workplace or proper reporting.

no comments
Uncategorized

“Hey cutie pie” – phone app submission

I was walking back to work after getting lunch. I  hear, “Hey cutie pie”, yelled out of a guy’s car window. I said, “Don’t say that” and he said “But you’re a cutie pie” as he drove off. He said it in such a disgusting way, like I was child. Seriously, I felt infantilized. I yelled as loud as I could, to no one in particular because he had already driven out of hearing range, “That’s street harassment and NO ONE LIKES IT”. Maybe someone else heard it and either learned something or identified with me.

I've got your back!
14+

no comments

View Archives

Powered by WordPress