“Don’t suffer in silence!” – RC’s story

I was sitting across from a young man in the hospital about to leave from the Hopkins hospital to go to the metro. Something felt weird until I realized the guy across from me was filming me while having his hands in his pants and masturbating. There were other people around, but he was sitting in a position that made it hard for others to see. I was furious, called him out on it, and stared the f*ck out of him until he stopped and pulled his hands out of his pants. I called out to him repeatedly, drawing attention, kept yelling, “What? What? I can’t hear you. What are you saying? The train is too loud,” to get him to speak louder, which made him embarrassed. This is unfortunately not the first time something like this has happened, but I’ve long learned that you can’t suffer in silence and let them get away with that. I urge all allies – men and women alike – to speak out, call out this kind of inappropriate behavior when you see it. While the victim may be immobilized or unsure of what to do in that moment, we can – as a society – at least let harassers know that the people around him disapprove of what he does. Speak up – for yourself and others – and don’t suffer in silence!